tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86316935584499675292024-03-19T05:48:24.449-07:00the tao of honeybeari.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-40024479282216911562011-03-29T14:53:00.000-07:002011-03-29T14:54:25.486-07:00The Root of All Evil (Part one?)<!--StartFragment--> <p class="MsoNormal">There I was driving on Interstate-80, tired, hungry, and above all else – thirsty.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I had just finished an ACLS class where I’ve been for the past two days learning how to save the lives of my fellow humankind.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The radio was tuned to NPR where Ira Glass was talking to some guy about rubber duckies that somehow floated away into the Pacific Ocean never to be played with again.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But I was not listening, I was hardly hearing the radio at all.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Like most days when I have a long drive ahead of me, I go into auto-pilot:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>my hands and eyes are directing the car towards home, safely and legally, while my mind blurs and focuses on matters miles away from my body.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"> On this particular drive, my mind wandered to a book by Yann Martel.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I read “beatrice and virgil” many months ago, but there was a scene from that book that suddenly popped into my head.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>In vivid detail, Yann Martel describes the plight of several Jewish women running away from their Nazi aggressors, and in their struggle to flee they are caught in a river and could go no further.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>They were surrounded by Nazis from all sides, their only solace was the river water flowing waisthigh.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>One by one, they drowned themselves – because death was far better than being caught in the evil hands of those Nazis.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Tears welled up in my eyes, and as they rolled down my cheeks I was suddenly triggered back to my car – still heading home, and still driving safely, Ira Glass still talking away on the radio.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>But I continued to cry and I found myself asking the whys and whats, unanswerable question directed to the heavens, asking God for whatever FAITH I have left in him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"> What makes one human being want to hurt another human? What makes a person like me want to spend hours learning how to save a stranger, while another goes to great lengths to kill another?<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>It makes no sense to me when humans are risking life and limb to save lives in Japan, while other human are losing life and limb to destroy other lives in Libya.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>How can I help?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Where to I start?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>What is the root of all this evil?????</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> Usually when my emotions are up-heaved and the adrenaline is pumping and passions are running high – I push my Superhero button and my mind and body is deluded into thinking I have superpowers.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>The energy allows me to run faster, think clearer, and do almost the impossible – just like how I saved that mannequin in my ACLS class during a mega code.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I truly, truly want to do something to nurse this grief in my heart, make a difference and become a stronghold in the face of evil.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I want to give to humanitarian causes.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I want to fly to inner city neighborhoods and plant my skills and knowledge in the soils of despair and crime.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I want to do something…anything…and everything.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> I am capable.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I am willing.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> But I am not available.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>There is a dark and evil force that is too strong to break right now, because I am in auto-pilot and I am being directed to follow my daily routines and sub-routines in order to function within prescribed parameters.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I have to get home and give the dog a bath, clean the house, go shopping, then pick up the girls from day care.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"> My tears have drained away for now but the grief remains.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>My questions remain, and the answers are waiting for my searching soul.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I will be available to go on that quest, right after all the planned and random routines have been acted away, and little ones successfully sent to sweet slumber.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I will again explore my superhero button and battle the cobwebs of sleep to find that root of evil and axe it away.</p> <!--EndFragment-->i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-735791372569426292011-03-20T11:32:00.001-07:002011-03-20T11:44:13.288-07:00Lovely Jelly Rolls<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4tjC0oRojStpAb9elsBFjP9q8_NlPaBhupXaBHXI5dN2RUokSUV5S2KY-J12bpYf15vr9TLCBx7TH80wTQuyAGQp9yNMG81OXeYNVjD36WsAxsVCqJw-9LWb-NkLatFc6Qav2iVf_21w/s1600/DSC_0905.JPG"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 268px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5586234169673735410" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4tjC0oRojStpAb9elsBFjP9q8_NlPaBhupXaBHXI5dN2RUokSUV5S2KY-J12bpYf15vr9TLCBx7TH80wTQuyAGQp9yNMG81OXeYNVjD36WsAxsVCqJw-9LWb-NkLatFc6Qav2iVf_21w/s400/DSC_0905.JPG" /></a><br /><p class="MsoNormal">These are my baby Isla’s arms.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>They are my jelly rolls.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I nibble at them for breakfast, lunch and dinner, and every hour on the hour for snack (except when she’s sleeping of course).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>They are delicious, these chubby arms, and so lovely.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And lovelier still when she coos and giggles when I nibble at them, my lips chomping with delight.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><?xml:namespace prefix = o /><o:p></o:p></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal">I am sad because I know these jelly rolls don’t last…they start to fade away around six months…at about the time she starts crawling away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>When Sophia had her jelly rolls, the only attention they got was the meticulous wiping of the folds during bath-time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But when they disappeared, I surely noticed their absence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal">Lately, these jelly rolls have become a constant reminder of how lucky I am to have a healthy child…again.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Chubby arms, chubby legs, chubby rosy cheeks - such wonderful signs of health could easily be taken for granted.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Which I did, until some things outside of my comfort zone pried my eyes open to the sad possibilities.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I have several friends who are trying to get pregnant and most of them have experienced that joy of pregnancy only to be heartbroken by a miscarriage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>One friend has had several miscarriages and now that she is pregnant again – she is deathly afraid of another miscarriage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Just the mention of “baby” or the tune of a lullaby brings her to tears.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And I feel for her and the others. I have been there.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I know what it’s like to wish for more than anything in the world, to bargain everything else in my life just to have that one wish come true.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I remember the pain of having that wish granted only to be taken away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I remember the secret sadness I felt when someone else had pregnancy news.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I remember thinking what a horrible person I was for being so angry at someone else’s good fortune – but I truly felt there was no justice in the world because I knew what a good mother I could be and there were bad mothers out there having babies right and left.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal">Another sad possibility is to bear a child that is not so healthy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I have a friend who gave birth only 24 weeks into pregnancy, and that precious baby is fighting for her life in the NICU.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I cannot imagine the heartache, worry, and agonizing stress the parents are going through right now and into the future.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal">For some odd reason, while my healthy child was gestating in my womb and I went on a pregnancy leave of absence…I came across a blog about a mom who lost a disabled child.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And from that blog I followed links to other moms who have also lost children.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>As I read their stories of sorrow, their struggle to move on, and their quest to find answers to why it happened, I couldn’t wipe the tears from my eyes fast enough.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The blogs were so painful and heartbreaking, yet I couldn’t stop reading.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I couldn’t understand my obsession.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal">Life is a mystery and the forces of heaven and nature intermingle with our destiny – at least with mine just recently. I returned to work two weeks ago.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And last week, just minutes before my shift ended, I received a patient assignment that put things into perspective:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>A little 20 year old girl with cerebral palsy, quadraplegic, absolutely helpless, nonverbal, mentally disabled, and just recovering from sepsis.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>At first I was afraid of taking this complex assignment because of all the tubes she came with and how fragile she would be.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Upon entering her room, the first thing she did was smile at me, and of course I fell in love with her right away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>At first I felt so sorry for her, this poor child trapped in such a wrecked body.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I was afraid to touch her for fear of breaking a bone or inflicting pain that she couldn’t express.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I went home feeling absolutely sad.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal">Back to work the next morning, I met the mother.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Then immediately I remembered the blog stories, the thoughts and feelings of the mothers, their wishes to make others understand that having a disabled child is a gift.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>After just a few words, I felt a connection to the child’s mother, and as such felt more comfortable and competent at caring for her daughter.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>She said “if I could do it all over again, I wouldn’t change a thing” – the exact same words the blog mothers said.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Having this child has given her and her other children such a special appreciation and perspective on life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I laughed and cried with her as she shared her thoughts and experiences. I left that day feeling better about the child, because of a mother who did not and will never give up on her.</p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal">I wonder if I would have acted differently toward the child and mother if I did not have the understanding that the blogs gave me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Would I have acted like the night-shift nurse and become frustrated at the mother for being critical with the care given to her child. Would I have continued to be afraid of caring for the child and limited my rounds.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Who knows, but I sure am lucky to have found the blogs and coincidentally apply that knowledge to my job.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Furthermore, I am acutely aware of the fragility of life and realize how lucky I am that the daily concerns for my children does not include “Is she getting enough oxygen?” or “Is her skin breaking down?” or “Will the germs on my breath kill my child?”</p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal">Cam and I are lucky for our healthy children.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And we promise to never take their health for granted.</p>i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-18943382778516460782011-02-12T13:08:00.000-08:002011-02-13T01:46:36.295-08:00My Husband: The Man, The Legend<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3wHSeVg0-NJ3MgdIaVyuSJjO_9v9m1NjweIU1VpmbhyphenhyphentBIYgRdXDY_MIHlQ-oWNYUnqfpWWIL-DOsI1VwpXKBaCSrwuW6entlbjQMMkr7QXB7S03JpfuzV-_Y2VmMbgLg8FGD0Yypxh0/s1600/P2121375.JPG"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 300px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5572916054443547154" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3wHSeVg0-NJ3MgdIaVyuSJjO_9v9m1NjweIU1VpmbhyphenhyphentBIYgRdXDY_MIHlQ-oWNYUnqfpWWIL-DOsI1VwpXKBaCSrwuW6entlbjQMMkr7QXB7S03JpfuzV-_Y2VmMbgLg8FGD0Yypxh0/s400/P2121375.JPG" /></a><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;">Today is the birthday of the love of my life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>My dear, sweet, and absolutely super husband.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>So, after a well deserved breakfast prepared by his supergirl daughter and me, his super(sexy) wife, I decided he also needed a little space here in etherspace devoted just for him.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;">Yes, it is no secret that he is the love of my life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>If he was nothing more than just another guy off the street that I just happened to fall in love with, that would have been enough.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But no, he is so much more.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Before I met him, I was a poor heartbroken soul who was ready to give up on love and run away to the nunnery.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But there he appeared in my A&P classroom wearing a labcoat and lecturing on the intrinsic anatomy of a cat.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>As I listened to him, I decided right then and there that I wanted to marry him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Never mind that he was my teacher and that I knew nothing more than his name…I wanted to marry him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But just so I don’t go jumping into an inferno like I had done so many times before, I checked off the list one by one.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>YES, I had a list- well thought out and itemized after the latest nasty break-up. </span><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Arial;"><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Arial;">THE LIST for The ONE</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Arial;"><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Arial;"><u>#1:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>He must love the outdoors.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></u></span><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;">Cam is an absolute outdoorsman, more so than me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>He had braved freezing winter in a tent, caught and tagged birds in the wild, hiked up to Machu Picchu and waded chin-high into muddy waters.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But all his adventures before he met me were not what sealed the deal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It was when we went on a camping trip and we needed to build a campfire but we had no kindling.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Then like a lumberjack, Cam said “don’t you worry little lady, I’ve got it under control,” and then he pulled out his axe.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>My jaw dropped and my eyes popped out into little hearts.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 22px; COLOR: rgb(42,42,42)font-family:Arial;" class="Apple-style-span"><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;"></span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 22px; COLOR: rgb(42,42,42)font-family:Arial;" class="Apple-style-span">#2.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>He must be into science.</span><br /></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">Science is a big deal to me, I loved the subject since I was in elementary school and always got the trivial science questions right on Jeopardy. It was a definite must that my one and only loved it too - I imagined me and the one in our old age sitting on our porch chairs, sipping our iced teas, and discussing the theory of relativity. So when Cam took me on our first date to the Newport Aquarium in Kentucky and named all the fish in their scientific names, I felt like I was on a date with Einstein. “This is the Zebrasoma flavescens,” he said, pointing at a yellow tang, “a saltwaterfish species of the family Acanthuridae…” You had me at Zebrasoma baby.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(42, 42, 42); "><br /></span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(42, 42, 42); ">#3.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>He must love children</span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">Let’s face it, my last few relationships were disasters when it came to children. They did not know how to interact with them. I, on the other hand, am infatuated with kids. I think they are the most precious creations on earth and I go into a sad withdrawal if I don’t get to hear their laughter or pinch their deliciously chubby cheeks on a daily basis. So, when I first introduced Cam to my little nieces and nephews, it was actually a test. He played with them, wrestled with them, told jokes, and made them laugh. It wasn’t long before they were competing on who got to sit next to him in the car. I was amazed. Not only did he pass the test, he obliterated the competition - me.</span><br /></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;"><br /></span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">#4.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>He must want to travel.</span><br /></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">Traveling is one of my biggest loves, and it is a must that The One is there to share the world with me. So, not even six months into dating, Cam asked me “If you could go anywhere in Europe, where would you go?” Florence was my reply, and Florence was where we went. This man was proving himself worthy, and he wasn’t even trying that hard.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(42, 42, 42); "><br /></span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(42, 42, 42); ">#5.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>No smoking</span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">Cam was a social smoker, but he quit when he met me. Enough said.</span><br /></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;"><br /></span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">#6.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>He must like my friends.</span><br /></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">You would think that liking the friends of your significant other is a given - but you wouldn’t believe how many loser boyfriends I’ve had who couldn’t stand my friends and vice versa. Note to self and everyone- if your boyfriend speaks badly of your friends, then he’s probably not The One- DUH! However, Cam was a big hit with my friends. Not only did he like them, they liked him back.</span><br /></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(42, 42, 42); "><br /></span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(42, 42, 42); ">#7.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Must have a good relationship with his family.</span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">This item came after the latest boyfriend dodged his parents every chance he got, and I tried my best to reconcile his relationship with his dad.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But I had no such problems with Cam.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It was clear that family was important to him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>He was raised by very supportive parents and grew up with amazing sisters.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I’ve never met a guy so close to his family.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Not only that, his cousins and aunts and uncles and other further relations have birthday reminders in his I-Phone!</span><br /></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(42, 42, 42); "><br /></span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(42, 42, 42); ">#8.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Must be a romantic</span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17pt; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0.25in; mso-pagination: none; mso-layout-grid-align: none" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">Romance is essential for any relationship to work. Cam certainly wowed me the first time when he drove me in his rickety Toyota 4-Runner to a secluded field in the middle of podunk Ohio. It was the middle of the night, dark, and the nearest house was miles away. I had just met this man and no one could hear me if I screamed! Then he pointed up at the sky as several shooting stars streaked the night. “The Perseids meteor shower,” he explained, “it happens once a year. Make a wish.” It was my very first meteor shower, and I was in awe, not only of the magnificent spectacle in the sky, but of the man standing with me. “Did you make a wish?” I asked him . I almost cried when he said “My wish already came true,” as he spooned Ben and Jerry’s Bananas Foster Ice Cream into my mouth. This guy was for real! Real, because the romance has continued through the years. Even now, when I appear before him in my wrinkled pajamas and stinky morning breath…all traces of that youthful beauty gone…he still makes my heart go aflutter with his romantic ways. And yes, every year in August, we still drive to where civilization ends to watch the Perseids in the clear night sky, kids and dog in tow.</span><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(42, 42, 42); "><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(42, 42, 42); ">#9 Must be appealing to the eyes.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">Okay, so I admit I can be shallow - I was looking for someone tall, dark and handsome. Someone with the face of Keanu Reeves and built like Matthew McConaughey. Although it was not number one on my list, physical attraction still had some importance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But then again, I would be looking forever if I was set on someone who looked like a god and still have those awesome qualitites. No one like that exists, right? Wrong. Cam proved me wrong.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>While I believe in love at first sight, true love comes only after seeing the person for who really is.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I did think Cam was very handsome the first time I saw him, but he became even more attractive with every moment I spent with him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>These days, Keanu has nothing on him, but we’re still working on his six-pack.</span><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;"><o:p></o:p></span></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">#10.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Must love me wholeheartedly</span><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">While this is the last must on my list in the beginning, it has now become the most important.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I did not expect Cam to love me wholeheartedly in the beginning…I had just met the guy!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It would have concerned me greatly if he said he loved me wholeheartedly just minutes or even days after he met me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>There are con-artists out there who have broken many lonely hearts while stealing away with their money.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>No, that kind of love can only happen after going through hard times, seeing the ugly, and experiencing the worst that could happen<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>(I will spare you the gruesome details.)<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>He is still with me, and still loves me, after all this time….wholeheartedly.<o:p></o:p></span></p><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">I remember a hazy past back in the Philippines, when I was wee, sitting on a painted bench by the sea, watching a setting sun, and dreaming of faraway lands hidden in the orange horizon.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I remember a single thought of destiny, that there was someone out there meant for me, and that when it happened…it’ll be forever.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Well, that little girls dream did come true.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Cam was and is truly The One.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>He is my knight in shining armor, my beloved Romeo, my superstar, my gallant champion.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>He is my Superman.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;"><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">Happy Birthday Cameron, I love you.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#2a2a2a;">Forever, your Honeybear.</span><span style="font-family:Arial;"><o:p></o:p></span></p><br /><p style="TEXT-ALIGN: center" class="MsoNormal" align="center"><o:p></o:p></p>i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-35224689638888342152011-02-10T01:44:00.000-08:002011-02-10T01:49:47.637-08:00My social butterfly<!--StartFragment--> <p class="MsoNormal">My darling daughter always amazes me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Not only is her beautiful face beyond comparison, her personality is golden. Yes, I tend to place my daughter on a sky-scraping pedestal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I see in her a person who will achieve great heights and realize her dreams with jaw-dropping tenacity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>She has accepted her baby-sister with amazing grace, loved her immediately from the very beginning.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>She is eager to help me with diapering and feeding, and fetches washcloths and binkies without hesitation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>My fears of her exhibiting signs of jealousy have been completely obliterated.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Since the arrival of her baby-sister, my husband and I have demanded more of Sophia, asking her to play quietly, instructing her to settle down more often, and making her wait until after baby-sister is asleep or done feeding before we could attend to her requests.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And although there have been moments of stubbornness and resistance, those times are negligible compared to the many times Sophia waited patiently with a smile, yielding to the baby’s more immediate needs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And yes I do feel guilty for asking so much out of her – but like a grown-up she seems to understand that she is no longer the only child in the house.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal">What amazes me most of all is her social intelligence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>She can go into a room full of kids she has never met before and within minutes become everyone’s BFF.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>She is an absolute social butterfly.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Her active imagination and penchant for laughter and silliness has made her popular among her friends.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The parents of her little buddies call to see if their children could have play dates with Sophia.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Her classmates at school jump up and down with excitement and can’t wait to hug her when she arrives.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>At the park, I am always in awe at how easily she makes friends with the other children.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>It doesn’t matter if the kids are older or much younger than her, she’ll approach them, say hi, then in the blink of an eye they are running around like old friends.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The other day, a girl twice her age arrived at the park and Sophia said “Hi little girl, you want to play with me?”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Such confidence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Such a free and easy spirit to assume that everyone wants to be her friend, and she’s never been refused.</p><p class="MsoNormal">Which is why it took her by complete surprise when one little girl said no.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Sophia was playing in this spinning rocket contraption at the park and she was having a great time all by herself until this cute 3-year-old girl came along to see what Sophia was doing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Sophia graciously stopped spinning, acknowledged that the girl was smaller than her and politely asked “Would you like to play with me?<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>You can get on and I will spin you.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The little girl screamed “NO!”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It was a growl of negativity, a very loud and very mean rejection.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The little girl’s mother came and reprimanded her of course, but it was too late.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Sophia was shocked, but most of all hurt.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>No one has ever refused to play with her before, and she didn’t know how to take it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The tears welled up in her eyes and she ran to me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>“I want to go home mommy,” she kept saying through her tears.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I felt so bad for her, but it was a good time as any to learn a lesson.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I tried to explain that it’s okay, that some kids just want to play something else or want to play by themselves, that some kids are just not as ready as she is to become friends and need more time, that some kids are too young or too small to do the things she could do, that some kids are just plain spoiled and the parents should be spanked (that last one I kept to myself).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It took some time, but she finally calmed down.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And that cute little 3-year-old, blue-eyed blond and all, eventually came to Sophia to apologize and asked if they could play.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And like best friends they played until the mosquitoes swarmed and ran us all out of there.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>But not before the little girl’s mother came to me and asked if they could play together again sometime.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>My social butterfly persevered once more.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <!--EndFragment-->i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-58294479459478237092011-01-30T11:27:00.000-08:002011-01-30T20:56:38.121-08:00Barefoot Essentials<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaL72XuVCEwoHWKcjQZP1gQVecqDg9lYtbsbXzppLhxj0JOiqJ36JLIwYDhSB785liYWEvJn5R3lRqhGOyA7OEp0U9KgjGCGslkXhA16NorVu6Wugd-YoZLuqArB5G4UOVLgJkRp-iF48/s1600/179912_md.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaL72XuVCEwoHWKcjQZP1gQVecqDg9lYtbsbXzppLhxj0JOiqJ36JLIwYDhSB785liYWEvJn5R3lRqhGOyA7OEp0U9KgjGCGslkXhA16NorVu6Wugd-YoZLuqArB5G4UOVLgJkRp-iF48/s320/179912_md.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5568209354565089394" /></a><br /><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica"><br /></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica"><br /></p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica"> </p><p style="margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica"><!--StartFragment--> </p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">My dear husband got me the Vibram Five Fingers for Christmas, and last night I broke them in.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>These funny looking running shoes with toes were an eye-catcher. I was the only one wearing them at the gym.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Needless to say, my shoes were a magnet for snickers and furtive pointing, and will probably be the subject of conversation for many gym<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>groupies.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And once upon a time, I was one of those fools who laughed at these ridiculous shoes and labeled the wearer as some gung-ho freak for the next shoe hype.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"> But after reading that book “Born to Run” by Christopher McDougall and a little further research, I was convinced the true hype was from the expensive, highly padded shoes I’ve been buying from shoe giants like Nike, Asics, and Reebok.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The shoe industry got it wrong.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>“Protecting” runners’ legs and joints with heavy shoes that provided padding and buffers and cushioning was doing more harm than good.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Humans are natural runners, using only the beautiful feet we were born with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Our feet were designed with balls and toes that support and balance our bodies everytime they land on the ground.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And as we use our feet more often, pushing our skills from walking, to tippie-toeing, to jumping, to running…we naturally build the muscles and develop strength to match our ever increasing needs.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> Those cushioned shoes are preventing our feet and legs from developing those muscles and strength, hence foot and leg injuries occur.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>In fact, foot and leg injuries have increased despite the advances in shoes cushioning and padding.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And it is clear why.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The more we protect our feet, the weaker they become.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> As I walked around the treadmills at the gym, I noticed the feet of other runners with their big shoes.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>They landed on their heels, which is the exact opposite of how we should land.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Try jumping barefeet and notice how we land on our forefoot and toes, the natural way of landing and balancing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Our heels were not meant to absorb the shock of our whole body when it lands, the shoe supposedly absorbs it…but in the long run our knees and backs pay the price.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> The Vibram Five Fingers felt so comfortable, and I could actually feel the ground with my feet.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I felt a connection, a sense of awareness of the surface I was walking on.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I felt that same nostalgia and summer glee of walking outside after winter months of staying indoors.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It was like putting on a brand new pair of shoes and I couldn’t wait to run with the wind.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>My feet felt free to move, did not have that cramped feeling of imprisonments.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>My feet felt healthier and more balanced.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal">So come on, bring out that super-athlete in you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Go out there and run barefoot, it’s so good for you.</p> <!--EndFragment--> <p></p>i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-80176979411037959712011-01-29T19:56:00.000-08:002011-01-29T20:40:10.285-08:00Vaccination Consternation<!--StartFragment--> <p class="MsoNormal">Yesterday, everything went to hell at the doctor’s office.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The girls were getting their shots.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Sophia had a total of 5!!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Isla had 3!!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The poor dears, their tearful screams were enough to send me to an insane asylum…I felt so bad!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>At first, Sophia had no idea she was getting shots, and she was all happy and cooperative, a perfect angel.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>as soon as the LVN came in the room with the needles, there was no reasoning with her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It took a full 10 minutes just to get her sweater off as she screamed bloody murder.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>With all the ruckus, the baby put in her two cents and started her shrilling cry.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And to top it off, the LVN was no help as she just stood there watching me and Cam wrestle with our perfect daughter to expose her arms just so 5 needles can be jabbed into them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> Sophia was surprisingly strong, it was like tackling down a tarp in a category 5 typhoon (believe me, it's impossible). </span>“I really don’t have all day,” the LVN said disapprovingly. <i>Why don’t I stick those needles up your a$$ and see how you like it B!@tch!</i><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>We finally called another person to help hold Sophia down.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>HOLY MARY MOTHER….it was so painful to watch.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> Her gushing tears were making me cry. </span>Then it was Isla’s turn and I had to hold her legs down.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> I felt weak with guilt. </span>With all the screaming and the LVN rushing about, I was concerned about her getting all the needles right. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">When it was all over and after about 15 minutes of calming the girls down, we finally left and headed for Coldstone Creamery for well deserved treats.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Candy Cane ice cream with rainbow sprinkles and marshmallows made all the owwies go away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>That and 5 princess stickers.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Let’s see what happens next year.</p> <!--EndFragment-->i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-3780916965746128272011-01-22T01:02:00.000-08:002011-01-22T01:08:14.833-08:00Where the wild things are<!--StartFragment--> <p class="MsoNormal">Traveling with children certainly changes the destination and adventure.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>When it was just Cam and me, we were free to wine and dine in the poshest restaurants; we scanned cities with thoughts of romance and relaxation; we jumped on tour buses at a moment’s notice, route unknown; our itineraries included words like “class 5 rapids” and “extreme downhills” and signed waivers were required before we let our adrenaline do the walking; we went to bed every night without really sleeping (wink wink) and woke up every morning to a new city; we signed up for dangerous missions and packed whatchamacallits with our unmentionables; and need I mention all the hot cars we wrecked and the bottomless glasses of martinis we drank – yeah, shaken not stirred.*</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">(*disclaimer: the last few events took place only in the author’s so called mind, but exaggerations are so much more fun to write.)</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Now that we are traveling with kids, the adventure really begins in the airplane…no, at the airport…well actually, the trip to the airport. Okay, so the adventure begins even before we leave the house.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Packing is pretty wild.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It’s not just clothes anymore.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>We have to figure out a way to haul the car seat, stroller, booster chair, and toys along with our baggage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Then somehow stuff diapers, bottles, breast pump, snacks, books, lap tops, DVD’s, extra clothes, and more toys into a luggage that’s already ripping at the seams. And the trip to the airport is even wilder because we have to turn around and return to the house at least three times to retrieve items we’ve forgotten or think we’ve forgotten.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But the really wild part is at the airport. If you haven’t gone through security with a stroller and a baby strapped to the carseat…well you haven’t really lived.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And let’s not talk about the plane-ride if you are pregnant, have back pain, epilepsy, or heart-problems.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">When we arrive and finally get to enjoy the city/resort/jungle/wasteland we’ve chosen to throw our hard-earned money at, the first thing we do is rest-up, and sleep, and rest some more, and sleep some more.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>We must always have a plan when we go out; our maps clearly show where the public restrooms and play-areas are.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Dining choices are limited to “kid-friendly” restaurants and must have diaper-changing stations in the restrooms.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>There’s nothing wilder than using a beautiful restroom sink as a tub to bathe a toddler covered in poo (yes...sh!*t happened, it really did).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Tipping the server is a wild adventure as the percentage increases with every utensil dropped, drink spilled, food thrown, and yes even glassware broken.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The looks we get from strangers are no longer because we are a cute couple in love but because there’s a baby screaming and the other child is wrapped around my leg. Hotel fitness rooms are no longer essential with all the running around between zoos, aquariums, playgrounds, amusement parks, museums, ice-cream shops, toy stores and any storefront colorful enough to catch a kid's interest.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal">When we finally return to our hotel room, it’s a whirlwind to get everyone cleaned up and ready for bed. We are so tired but happy, smiles in our faces and all the wildness temporarily spent.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>As we hug and kiss our kids goodnight and tell them we can’t wait to visit all the wild places again the next day, Cam and I know just how lucky we are to have these adventures at all.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>We would not change a thing.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Not one wild minute.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span></p> <!--EndFragment-->i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-6824839104533973082011-01-17T17:43:00.000-08:002011-01-17T19:29:45.773-08:00I (also) have a dream...<!--StartFragment--> <p class="MsoNormal">I dream of a day when the liberals and the conservatives elected to their thrones can walk together hand in hand and have civil conversations and not judge each other by the parties they belong to but not judge each other at all. I dream that one day, the news media will actually report the facts and not muddle the truth with insinuations and opinions that can sway the minds of those easily swayed.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I dream of a time when I don’t have to worry about my daughters getting cancer or developing a chronic disease because of the air they breath, or the water they drink, or the food they eat. I dream of a place where my daughters are free to roam without fear of some stranger snatching them away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I dream of a fair world, not the one we live in now where families lose their jobs, then go homeless and hungry because the government chose instead to use billions of dollars to bail out a fat-cat on Wallstreet.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I dream of a day when the budget for teachers is overflowing and students get the rightful education while the military has to hold bakesales just to fund another killing machine.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I dream of a day when the healthy organic locally grown vegetables are a dime a dozen and those mass-produced, picked-before-ripened, trucked-in from another country variety packs rot on the shelves because they are too expensive for the average consumer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I dream of a day when huge, gas-guzzling SUV’s stop polluting the air and clogging my parking spots because people have come to realize that they are not driving on rugged mountain roads but smooth paved highways.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I dream of a day when<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>the government actually represents all the people and not just the top 1% who have the money and the means to sway officials to their elite causes.</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Yes, I also have a dream today.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I live in this imperfect world and struggle to make it better for my children. <span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I strive everyday to exalt every valley, to lower the hills and mountains, and to straighten the crooked places. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>A better place, a better tomorrow, a better world.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>That is my hope.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Happy MLK day to one and all.</p> <!--EndFragment-->i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-27440085789456797502011-01-15T23:25:00.000-08:002011-01-15T23:26:25.308-08:00Pipe Dreams<!--StartFragment--> <p class="MsoNormal">We got together with some friends: 3 husbands, 2 wives, and a whole lot of kids running around in my tiny house (and this was after running around in the park for 3 hours!)<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I played the good hostess:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>pizza, chips, salsa, popcorn and beer all around while playing referee/coach to the kids and babying the baby (I’m really getting good with this multi-multi-tasking thing!)</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> The conversation:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>investing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Who’s money?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Mine, his, ours.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The idea: if each family had $10 thousand to spare, let’s all pool it together and make millions in the stock market!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>If not the stock market, maybe have a brilliant idea, invent something, and again make millions!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The three guys were all excited, spouting out plans to lure investors, suggesting companies (evil vs. good) worthy of our time and money, checking out stocks in real time (the I-Phone came in handy), naming billionaires who have done it (and bygosh, why couldn’t we!)</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> The guys were about to pee in their pants with the excitement of spending money they didn’t have.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>The other wife and I ate the chips and rolled our eyes. Patiently, we listened to their pipe dreams, nodding our heads appropriately. They were like children who have just cracked open a piggy bank.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>They wanted the yachts, the beach house, the Learjet, and a small private island – all they had to do was play the stock market: buy low and sell high – just how hard can it be!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Now, show me the money!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"> Calmly, the other wife said:<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>if she had to trust her money with anyone in the room, it would be with me – the only other woman in the room.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I beamed with pride.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>My husband laughed (laughter stopped short with my evil eye). He claimed I was too emotional and could not be trusted with money (such bravery to speak about me like that, even if in jest). He said I think emotionally.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>What does that even mean?</p> <p class="MsoNormal">But then again, much beer was imbibed that night, and so the discussion and dreams became more grandiose and eventually dwindled down to nothing. The night ended and we returned to reality. Pipe dreams to be continued at the next smoke-out.</p> <p class="MsoNormal">That night, as we snuggled in bed, I asked my husband again if he would trust me with his money.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>“Yes, of course I would trust you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>You have really good judgement,” he said.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Good answer, honey.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>See how fickle men can be depending on the company they are with?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Now who’s thinking emotionally.</p> <!--EndFragment-->i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-6706512106910248462011-01-12T08:52:00.000-08:002011-01-12T08:53:00.600-08:00But why mommy?This morning, I interrupted my 4-year-old Sophia from her morning cartoons to ask her to change out of her pajamas. However, she had other fashion plans and told me she really liked her Rapunzel sleep wear and would like to wear it all day. I argued that while the outfit looked really pretty on her, it was only for sleeping and she needed to wear something else for playing, and so in my most commanding-I-am-the-boss-here voice, I took my charge as a mom and asked her again to change for the tenth time. As she reluctantly marched to her room, in her whiny-I-never-get-my-way voice, she asked “but why mommy? Why can’t I wear my jammies all day?”<br /><br />The same confrontation happened at breakfast when she wanted to eat macaroni and cheese instead of cereal. I explained that we can eat Mac and Cheese for lunch, it wasn’t appropriate for breakfast. Again, in that voice, she asked “But why mommy, why can’t I eat what I want for breakfast?” <br /><br />For both questions, I gave a reasonable answer, but later I began to question my answers. Why indeed can’t we wear that or eat this at certain times of the day? Why can’t we wear pajamas all day if they are comfortable and why can’t we eat mac and cheese for breakfast? Why am I making my daughter follow a routine that I don’t necessarily follow myself. I sometimes go to sleep in my scrubs and go to the store in my jammies simply because they felt comfortable right then and there. And I admit I’ve eaten a cold pizza or ice cream for breakfast and cheerios for dinner because I wanted to. Why am I putting limits on my daughter on the littlest things, when I am trying my best to open her mind and teach her to be a free spirit? And who exactly says that we can’t eat what we want for breakfast? It’s the first meal of the day…we should be able to eat what we want. We have the rest of the day to replenish or reduce our consumption. And oh please, if that pajama is comfortable enough to sleep in, it certainly is good enough to play in. If Sophia is free to decide for herself what is comfortable and likes the clothes she wears at any time of the day, then that is the first step to being comfortable in her own skin.i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-55827311215755077492011-01-01T23:15:00.000-08:002011-01-01T23:17:25.250-08:00Auld Lang sighhhh....<!--StartFragment--> <p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: arial; font-size: medium; color: rgb(0, 0, 255); -webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; "><i>Should auld acquaintance be forgot, and never brought to mind?</i></span></p><p class="MsoNormal">For New Year’s Eve, my hubby dearest and I watched the fireworks over the Sacramento River at 9pm, snug and warm in our Subaru parked at Raley’s Field with a thousand other watchers.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Our kids sleeping in the backseat, including the dog.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Oh sure, we could have gone to a crazy party and drank ourselves to oblivion along with 99% of<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>the population…but that wasn’t us anymore.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Now we are just two loving parents whose late night escapades include feeding, burping, and changing diapers.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"> As we marveled at the spectacular light show against the city backdrop, we wondered when was the last time we actually partied on New Year’s Eve.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It certainly wasn’t last year:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>playing board games with other parents while the kids watched TV isn’t actually partying.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I can’t even remember what we did the year before that…but I’m pretty certain we were not wearing party hats and throwing confetti at each other.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>New Year’s Eve 2007 was almost a party, we were in some street in the Philippines, counting down the seconds along with other friends and many strangers…then went back to our hotel room to play cards with friends.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>2006…we were in LA, and watched fireworks with friends, baby Sophia in tow…that was fun…but no wild crazy party.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> No, all the wild partying and crazy morning afters where we couldn’t remember what we did the night before all happened…before the baby.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Before parenthood, before being mommy and daddy…we were party animals.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>That last crazy New Year’s Eve Party at our apartment so long ago, where limbo rocked and champagne bottles rolled and neighbors threatened to call the cops, that party now serves as a reference point to the before and after of our lives.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>We think back and sigh; we look at our kids and sigh; we listen to the escapades of our single friends with no kids and sigh.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Auld Lang Syne indeed, those were the days.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <!--EndFragment-->i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-82358303080010890002010-12-29T15:53:00.000-08:002011-01-12T21:14:23.482-08:00Picard Flute Solo<iframe title="YouTube video player" class="youtube-player" type="text/html" width="480" height="390" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/606Vk2iSFNk" frameborder="0"></iframe><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif;font-size:100%;color:#FFFFFF;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" line-height: 22px;font-size:13px;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:130%;color:#000000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" font-style: normal; line-height: normal;font-size:16px;"><i><br /></i></span></span></i></span></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif;font-size:100%;color:#FFFFFF;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" line-height: 22px;font-size:13px;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:130%;color:#000000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" font-style: normal; line-height: normal;font-size:16px;"><i>"When I awoke, all that was left of my life there...was the flute I'd taught myself to play."</i><br /></span></span></i></span></span><p class="MsoNormal">As you read this blog, your ears are probably listening to one of the most beautiful flute compositions ever made:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Picard Flute Solo.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>If not, choose the first song on my playlist to the right and click play.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It is a beautiful tune that tugs at the heart and soul.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It was composed for the Star Trek TNG episode, The<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Inner Light.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And so, why am I writing about Star Trek and this flute music?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Not sure, just had some thoughts about that episode and our infinitesimal and flitting time in this vastly infinite universe.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">If you haven’t seen the episode, Captain Picard is probed and his consciousness is taken to a planet where he lives for 30 years as a man with a wife and kids.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Meanwhile, back at the ship, actual elapsed time is only 25 minutes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But in the 30 years he lived in the planet, he learned to play the flute, as well as experience a life that does not exist when he finally wakes up.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Thirty years, a third of a lifetime, gone without a trace except for a flute, a haunting music, and memories than no one else can share.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And here I am, with 40 years of life that seemingly just flew by in a blink of an eye. And like Picard, I am left wondering, where has the time gone? What souvenirs do I have just to prove I lived those 40 years?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And have I actually lived?</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">It has been almost two years since I last wrote on this blog. In two years, I started a new hospital job, traveled to the other side of the world three times, my father died, and I delivered another daughter to my growing family.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>So much change in what seems like a short amount of time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>And every minute that goes by I wish for a machine that could slow everything down.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I wish to somehow hold a precious second in my hand and freeze it, to make it last longer before it disappears forever.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Time can be a cruel thing, whether it be years or seconds, it can never be enough even when it seems too much.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"> <o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">This life of mine, 40 spectral years of joy and sorrow, has been full.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I hope to never wake-up and realize it was all just a dream.</p> <!--EndFragment--></div>i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-72438438639772936872008-12-02T14:04:00.000-08:002008-12-02T22:30:12.139-08:00Blurbs from Tampa<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghUiKS75XmHNL1WCcafQo2VhT_Zdrvge-F_KpHS_4OKgSuDXfabOSY7bx7xG1gB_7WGLAgDKObEL4OL0d_AmbQcOS5W12SdX9e-AFZ5cf0TcxT1o_xuiDWF8dlBMcnPzMA9sqd0Zqzgq8/s1600-h/DSC03191.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5275324224257270178" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghUiKS75XmHNL1WCcafQo2VhT_Zdrvge-F_KpHS_4OKgSuDXfabOSY7bx7xG1gB_7WGLAgDKObEL4OL0d_AmbQcOS5W12SdX9e-AFZ5cf0TcxT1o_xuiDWF8dlBMcnPzMA9sqd0Zqzgq8/s320/DSC03191.JPG" border="0" /></a> Yes, we are in recession folks!! But Cam and i try to do our part to stimulate the economy - like heading to Tampa, FL. Nevermind that huge bills are piling up in the in-box or that holiday shopping is just around the corner - there is fun to be had on the otherside of the country!! So here are blurbs and pictures of our romp in the sun and sand. Warning: these pictures may turn you green with envy - especially if you are knee-deep in snow.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0AMnobiOtDLWYLX9tgIQ248GbrXz6-PEglpJuFK7KBK2fC9KCXuLQtsG68baI5-KolDC3mIIoOGhdo37nkXOdpTGswABA7Zi91wRd8VZVXpwphDepBQ1KITkeeJMBKHO1AhPkOp07iUE/s1600-h/beer+can+beach.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5275319265908538642" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0AMnobiOtDLWYLX9tgIQ248GbrXz6-PEglpJuFK7KBK2fC9KCXuLQtsG68baI5-KolDC3mIIoOGhdo37nkXOdpTGswABA7Zi91wRd8VZVXpwphDepBQ1KITkeeJMBKHO1AhPkOp07iUE/s320/beer+can+beach.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br />Thrina, David, Cam and Sophia in "Beer-Can Island" - named after the litter of drunken local picnic-ers.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6hopdGI9PlpqbqhDPrlh0QLMmJgLcXXKP2csWkZgqf_nK9YkdlOJYflAErn_qtkzCahdtTHZX1HGb6U8splEvsG7VoSex84igFfJnE7rJC4__gpeLiVE8kcja3qzmnkvj6j6AkH_A-jI/s1600-h/DSC03219+copy.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5275327459412837650" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 240px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6hopdGI9PlpqbqhDPrlh0QLMmJgLcXXKP2csWkZgqf_nK9YkdlOJYflAErn_qtkzCahdtTHZX1HGb6U8splEvsG7VoSex84igFfJnE7rJC4__gpeLiVE8kcja3qzmnkvj6j6AkH_A-jI/s320/DSC03219+copy.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br />Peace, Love and Happiness!<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIzMAHPT2O19hSk6XZnbqZqmz-vrXX-nOq0qHie1NY7iuvy79sK9Mrpmz2z4VNk4yUWXg372zx7lYwqw7L2twp05CbU76yP9IxzJxE8cLo_un6xh4b-tT8JHlmaHr2XaSf197gX9pwsWA/s1600-h/DSC03130.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5275322452063488242" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 150px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIzMAHPT2O19hSk6XZnbqZqmz-vrXX-nOq0qHie1NY7iuvy79sK9Mrpmz2z4VNk4yUWXg372zx7lYwqw7L2twp05CbU76yP9IxzJxE8cLo_un6xh4b-tT8JHlmaHr2XaSf197gX9pwsWA/s200/DSC03130.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br />On the dock waiting for "Weezy" the dolphin to swim by.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTJHNcUA5NgUkJAaPvi3GSzh3sj78qeK2p3V3ZVXCk4P6dyCdNZX_ju5-FV1_GY5S62-ZgXvKqrYRQ-p6YTcoQmEFABl7G-3Z8jvNeSOucPFh_g-afbavUgvwXt1Mp_pI3g0g0qyewZkk/s1600-h/tower.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5275322141092753538" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 150px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTJHNcUA5NgUkJAaPvi3GSzh3sj78qeK2p3V3ZVXCk4P6dyCdNZX_ju5-FV1_GY5S62-ZgXvKqrYRQ-p6YTcoQmEFABl7G-3Z8jvNeSOucPFh_g-afbavUgvwXt1Mp_pI3g0g0qyewZkk/s200/tower.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Swamp things. This park is named Lettuce Park...or is it Cabbage Park? Which is it David??<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinMkhfjTeQSlSc5GoDX8ZsYH0gEgC8zDga25NNrxuLzJKpNFxWVaOAUNoGpAPtN4PCHEzRg3aMHnEEIF8oE4mApBHOoHfTLcHZOgV11gFTgeTuqLWGfAPwDKYLXQFIIxRawa8RNvUc83U/s1600-h/tamba-bay+watch.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5275321928525554050" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 150px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 200px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinMkhfjTeQSlSc5GoDX8ZsYH0gEgC8zDga25NNrxuLzJKpNFxWVaOAUNoGpAPtN4PCHEzRg3aMHnEEIF8oE4mApBHOoHfTLcHZOgV11gFTgeTuqLWGfAPwDKYLXQFIIxRawa8RNvUc83U/s200/tamba-bay+watch.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Tampa-Bay Watch?<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_85Msjng39lO1nG3QHORFXyraD5OgMhQC1QAlhuXpuADFdasRoxJ65DVaAHwuMd98Tqk4ZiUStqFwHEH7h6zXkytwYaqj28SAG4mZOmL1i1cYqysUMtKbJnY-ToY6iJEdm4APVrzGnHM/s1600-h/DSC03243+copy.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5275331198497251490" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_85Msjng39lO1nG3QHORFXyraD5OgMhQC1QAlhuXpuADFdasRoxJ65DVaAHwuMd98Tqk4ZiUStqFwHEH7h6zXkytwYaqj28SAG4mZOmL1i1cYqysUMtKbJnY-ToY6iJEdm4APVrzGnHM/s320/DSC03243+copy.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br />We really do wish you were here...<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />If you wish to see more pictures, visit our picasa albums.i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-90266732017552728822008-11-30T22:27:00.000-08:002008-12-01T01:38:19.559-08:00introducing a two-year-old trauma queen<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBHobTNrsZsy9uvia5Qw_wsDUBkqTr0GV0Xabg2NGg4XGo1yj6XXBe568YWT9PkGpozIKc3eC3NWXIz5bYk2vT5luovJd9NG9JkontW5FnS4hug4Z0KeaoI6w77QXdk29cHAgtlIqAEtI/s1600-h/hoody+smile.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5274751596432985714" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 220px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 283px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBHobTNrsZsy9uvia5Qw_wsDUBkqTr0GV0Xabg2NGg4XGo1yj6XXBe568YWT9PkGpozIKc3eC3NWXIz5bYk2vT5luovJd9NG9JkontW5FnS4hug4Z0KeaoI6w77QXdk29cHAgtlIqAEtI/s400/hoody+smile.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>the princess of the house turned two a couple of weeks ago. she's now officially a terrible two and her powers to create chaos and ear-shattering outbursts have more than doubled in strength. this terrifying capacity is only challenged in force and might by her shining smile and awesomely beautiful face that always manages to transform my frightful frowns. she's a very generous giver of hugs and kisses, and betwixt moments of tantrums - she's a very skilled clown who's energy is renewed solely by gleeful laughter. she'll sing and dance and chase you around if you are a willing audience; otherwise cover your ears and pretend to ignore her tantrums. the fat tears rolling down her chubby cheeks will try to turn you into mush, but you must resist. be strong. her outbursts do not last long. if you survive the obligatory display of her temper, she will reward you with a wonderfully breath-taking cuddle and the unfailing ability to make her smile.</div>i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-45282394196143151922008-11-03T22:41:00.000-08:002008-11-04T20:43:02.030-08:00Downward Spiral<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3_PCGEDT8yC4NVhmc5EpDQayNqYZsx7pjPhfKzSN3ulmPQ8Cf3Y4zjLwT9p6j7OmxKv2vLH9WdMEKiqjOvA8tCemnd4Q8Ov_dZaZKtCwT27MwVR1bZoWoSuDwYpd5grQh3QwICKb67Ak/s1600-h/DSC02859.JPG"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3_PCGEDT8yC4NVhmc5EpDQayNqYZsx7pjPhfKzSN3ulmPQ8Cf3Y4zjLwT9p6j7OmxKv2vLH9WdMEKiqjOvA8tCemnd4Q8Ov_dZaZKtCwT27MwVR1bZoWoSuDwYpd5grQh3QwICKb67Ak/s320/DSC02859.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5264696787727917346" /></a><br />Nothin’ like a downward spiral to bring out the activist in all of us. The economy has packed up what’s left of its precious few and headed south for what seems like a permanent vacation. We’ve lost sight of brother charity and sister mercy; they are probably down south too, spiraling out of control, drunk on tequila bombs and panhandling the streets of despair. And let’s not mention the environmental pet. Mother nature has set it loose in its rabid condition after we failed on our promise to protect and nurture it. Out there, we are all fighting…for the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of those who disagree with our beliefs so we can flush them down the toilet. <br /><br />Tomorrow, we have that great-almighty-fundamental right to choose what should be done to us and who should do it. And the great unrest has disturbed the sleep of many apathetic souls. It is predicted that off-the-chart amount of voters will take to the polls and cast their stones. There will be long lines. Computers at the ready and news networks poised to battle for front-row-and-center. <br /><br />The excitement has been building up into a tumultuous wave here in the streets of Sacramento. For the past few days, those who think it’s okay to dictate the rights of the gay community have taken to the streets to support Proposition 8. This proposition seeks to amend California’s Constitution so it will state: “only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California.” Since when did the constitution become a tool for discrimination? Hundreds of these equality-challenged people rallied the streets, holding bright yellow signs and screaming at people to vote yes. In one corner, 50 of them huddled in a crowd…and smack-dab in the middle was one blue sign held by a brave soul. His sign said “No on 8”. I rolled down my window and yelled “You’re my HERO!!” while briefly contemplating running-over everyone else. I figured it was the least I could do.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2vI5boH-cP9K0WTW3zU4nlGtYTIKUsoVjrZVdFuqCm9eZgPtDvx5Q-XVEAjNFJksCmQPAVafgX0szbLdO304YNZp54TCN_W_3Wa177FfeqsDkNTwYTkrKkK0BHnhMbMdpImMOVW_uRTw/s1600-h/DSC02854.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2vI5boH-cP9K0WTW3zU4nlGtYTIKUsoVjrZVdFuqCm9eZgPtDvx5Q-XVEAjNFJksCmQPAVafgX0szbLdO304YNZp54TCN_W_3Wa177FfeqsDkNTwYTkrKkK0BHnhMbMdpImMOVW_uRTw/s200/DSC02854.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5264697198636555666" /></a>i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-74275401532648614132008-10-31T23:06:00.000-07:002008-11-03T23:25:58.280-08:00Double, Double...Toil and Trouble<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1jchkzcywOGHpj2h5DBzd0w6Fh9ixatywOMnHW7C2oIJ5j_-6axoMFXOrqyfu3CImSsL19vRApqs8CAYY_LA9PXE2sRxBH8gzByTyFrvqzIUOVndy4YCwbYx8YoDFCiHSfPsRDAvpUiE/s1600-h/DSC02648.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1jchkzcywOGHpj2h5DBzd0w6Fh9ixatywOMnHW7C2oIJ5j_-6axoMFXOrqyfu3CImSsL19vRApqs8CAYY_LA9PXE2sRxBH8gzByTyFrvqzIUOVndy4YCwbYx8YoDFCiHSfPsRDAvpUiE/s200/DSC02648.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5264694707833284386" /></a><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_VSH1dZgqmsQa0pLbTcP8-A_Fe_mPkIURfDPbHilfRXiCJSt_ACcqdfjhW2wSWfoOapYWbngPvj_6UySMsEqEDl_OUePchiBH14dt3LzavPl7mBA9tC0Fz_88VcKcTJ5qBupjasn4UGg/s1600-h/DSC02794.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_VSH1dZgqmsQa0pLbTcP8-A_Fe_mPkIURfDPbHilfRXiCJSt_ACcqdfjhW2wSWfoOapYWbngPvj_6UySMsEqEDl_OUePchiBH14dt3LzavPl7mBA9tC0Fz_88VcKcTJ5qBupjasn4UGg/s200/DSC02794.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5264694884589312978" /></a><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBQZ0kz7GNxUr-SK9dhEzAdqxgc_OzMwcmy4yr5CKS3Qa3DrS0gl4KT1X0fvJVW_gVxaqboFnK3P4Rsv2T2An2U3JlK72kYnnV4hrpReTQzQIuESC_9hyNJ99qD9zEOO4iIgpnmGogHLo/s1600-h/DSC02808.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 150px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBQZ0kz7GNxUr-SK9dhEzAdqxgc_OzMwcmy4yr5CKS3Qa3DrS0gl4KT1X0fvJVW_gVxaqboFnK3P4Rsv2T2An2U3JlK72kYnnV4hrpReTQzQIuESC_9hyNJ99qD9zEOO4iIgpnmGogHLo/s200/DSC02808.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5264695051383835410" /></a><br /><div>Fire burn and cauldron bubble.<br /></div><div><br /></div><div>Halloween has come and gone once more, and no lavish costumes cloaked this family. Cam and I wore recycled costumes of halloweens past. Sophia looked absolutely adorable in her little China Girl outfit - which was gifted as a pajama this past summer (thanks Aunt Jenn and Uncle Calvin!!) It came in very handy - she wore it to three different Halloween parties.</div><div><br /></div><div>Trick-or-treat? Most definitely treat! Sophia got really good at holding out her bag to receive treats - and lots of them. She has become an expert at opening up candy wrappers. She ate at least two lollipops and a handful of skittles tonight. Her hands were all sticky and her sugary sweet face full of smiles before getting ready for bed. I hope she dreams of fairy princesses and babies dressed like pumpkins tonight instead of the scary monsters that made her cry.</div><div><br /></div><div>We only got one trick-or-treater at our house tonight. ONE!! How disappointing. Now who's going to eat the two big bags of leftover candy? I'm thinking they will last till next halloween - but then again maybe not. Nothin' like chocolate to warm my soul this winter.</div><div><br /></div><div>I'm a little sad that Sophia probably won't experience the kind of Halloween I had as a child - at least not in this big city. As a child, I remember leaving my house with my brother soon after dinner time, clad in crazy home-made costumes and pillow cases in hand, and hitting the streets with our friends. We went all over, not worried about perverts abducting us or tainted candies poisoning us. We were free to be kids and allowed to go places that heightened our imaginations, daring each other to knock at houses thought to be haunted, challenging monsters to appear from the dark. We would circle the huge neighborhood at least three times, taking note of the houses that had extra-special candy. After we were satisfied, we would all gather at the sidewalk and compare our loots. Our delighted oohs and aahs would last until our moms' voices in the distance called us to get home and get to bed. I hope the world that awaits Sophia will have that same carefree magic and safe enchantment that nurtured me as a child.</div><div><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1MpUVFzEgEs2XftKIqAM8BxRQEyrobr2DbFZtk2iTV8o5rH5WNLeLlM-lKTEW5lrxXqITPTQixIBwK8W_TXmqSmP6_ZjmWmB6gPMlzaz0wAWWqtnX3Lyiwxph1cuMaccYwY9RDg-_Ut8/s1600-h/sophia+2.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 150px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1MpUVFzEgEs2XftKIqAM8BxRQEyrobr2DbFZtk2iTV8o5rH5WNLeLlM-lKTEW5lrxXqITPTQixIBwK8W_TXmqSmP6_ZjmWmB6gPMlzaz0wAWWqtnX3Lyiwxph1cuMaccYwY9RDg-_Ut8/s200/sophia+2.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5264699945655760194" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiiUSjD3_CqbiW72-5V0Y4858WjnZMYcjVmqEwLt71uEh4mqttkM594GQAk8oG7e9SXmj2aF9PQVSMj1sf6RCNqNbNNDeebJE34q0N2_r67TjElDc4HHd_OM8WFEc193Au2RLDPU-llVFI/s1600-h/sophia+1.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiiUSjD3_CqbiW72-5V0Y4858WjnZMYcjVmqEwLt71uEh4mqttkM594GQAk8oG7e9SXmj2aF9PQVSMj1sf6RCNqNbNNDeebJE34q0N2_r67TjElDc4HHd_OM8WFEc193Au2RLDPU-llVFI/s200/sophia+1.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5263586134026421762" /></a><br /></div><div><br /></div>i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-14693071255267688872008-10-22T21:42:00.000-07:002008-10-29T22:15:36.409-07:00Doing the Time Warp<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5AdjjrhsgF6hzOTdx3JiBrF5K0qeisJ3ZrUqcFDR-MUJ5QkoentAuW6OIeCxifF5oaxT_KOk9IX8P17qBYKDKFBnZr3Z_eqo5uuFCgQCNURQZ71KoMDLOjEQTAJvOq4VxA_h-kVpV0vc/s1600-h/timewarp_sm.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 99px; height: 118px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5AdjjrhsgF6hzOTdx3JiBrF5K0qeisJ3ZrUqcFDR-MUJ5QkoentAuW6OIeCxifF5oaxT_KOk9IX8P17qBYKDKFBnZr3Z_eqo5uuFCgQCNURQZ71KoMDLOjEQTAJvOq4VxA_h-kVpV0vc/s320/timewarp_sm.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5262811218763918306" /></a><br />The Discovery Channel, probably the only good reason to have cable – or a television for that matter. This is a channel that you can watch all day and not feel guilty. It’s a venue where you can soak up unending knowledge. It claims to provide you with knowledge of things you didn’t know you wanted to know.<br /><br />So today, I found a new favorite show – Time Warp. It is a show that uses super-duper high speed digital camera. They film really fast things and they play it back at a really cool 1000 frames a second. At such extreme slow motion – things are amazingly different. A soap bubble bursting beautifully into minute little water sprays, a skipping stone spinning while bouncing off a body of water, fire-breathers spraying fire into the air. It was amazing. Definitely a breath of fresh air from all the newscasters squawking politics.i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-25508361401034205192008-10-21T21:31:00.000-07:002008-10-29T22:00:32.288-07:00ROCK my world<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiyXyMpBg_6KkvhozROEylVCrWzBNF96pKECuWKvLXp_T5106ekvnGx_UQ5TFpBW4uoVvpmMpijHn9mKcvkBu4BYpI6XIHvt-ErWqhUs4a8eMY-T6zx-_AKD98kBiqhicRnvbzlFkgck0c/s1600-h/sophia.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 300px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiyXyMpBg_6KkvhozROEylVCrWzBNF96pKECuWKvLXp_T5106ekvnGx_UQ5TFpBW4uoVvpmMpijHn9mKcvkBu4BYpI6XIHvt-ErWqhUs4a8eMY-T6zx-_AKD98kBiqhicRnvbzlFkgck0c/s400/sophia.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5262807314710530994" /></a><br /><div><br /></div>Sophia’s fascination with the world is growing by leaps and bounds. Now that things actually have names she can pronounce and remember, she often stops many times on walks, points at just about everything and says the name over and over. It is so wonderful to experience the world again through her innocent eyes. A flower is a great point of interest, whether it be a pesky weed, stately rose, or everyday daisy. Airplanes are magical, and she’ll stare at the sky, not only after the airplane flies out of sight but until the engine sound fades away. And while she’s looking up, she’ll point at the sky, say “sky!” excitedly. She’ll even say “blue” after you ask her what color it is. Every dog is named "Obi!" and every child is “Baby!!”, no matter if the child is older than her. But what fascinates Sophia the most are rocks….yes, rocks.<br /><br />We’ll be walking along casually, and if there happens to be a rock on the ground, she’s at it like Obi to a squirrel. “Oooh, rock!!” she’ll squeal, picking it up twirling it round and round in her tiny hands. Sometimes, she’ll give it to me for safekeeping while she looks for more. Now, imagine what would happen if we walked by a field of rocks. Oh yeah, it would be like Christmas everyday. Sophia could probably spend hours sorting rocks if I allowed her. She’ll just sit herself down and play in her rocky world till the cows come home.i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-21553299566096721422008-10-18T04:08:00.000-07:002008-10-18T04:17:47.572-07:00casting my pebble, don't let my ripples throw youTurn on the news these days, and you’ll most likely get an overdose of the McCain-Obama-Economy trilogy. With only a few days left before the big election, there is no escaping the political storm growing in your television, computer, radio, and most recently, in your house plumbing. There certainly is a lot of information out there, accusations and mud-slinging, by the candidates and by the media-pundits themselves. I try to inform myself, see both sides of the issue, watch the debates with an open mind, and even read all the pros and cons of the candidates. But everyone out there has an opinion – whether it be valid or not. My computer almost crashed while downloading the myriad of websites that are pro/con Obama and pro/con McCain. My brain is washed up after watching hours of news reports on pro-Obama MSNBC and pro-McCain FOX News. There is so much to learn and understand – the trick is to filter out all that information, weed out the myths from the facts. But in the end – what really matters is choosing the candidate who will steer the country in the direction that I am going. <br /><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: bold;">And so… this is why I am voting for <a href="http://www.barackobama.com/index.php">Obama:</a></span></span><br />Sure there are many things he is accused of, such as having radical friends (William Ayers and Jeremiah Wright come to mind), his alleged connection to ACORN (voter registration fraud), his possible Muslim faith (his middle name is Hussein, ergo he’s a terrorist), and his lack of experience (this is possibly my only dire concern). But the PROS are what really counts for me, and here they are:<div><br />1. Economic plan – Tax the very rich and help the very poor. I definitely make less than $250,000/year- so, of course this is a good plan for me. But more so, I am so sick and tired of wealthy big oil companies laughing their way to the bank while people like me are working crazy hours to make ends meet (Exxon Mobil’s fourth quarter net income last year was $11.66 billion… the company made $1,300/second in 2007!!!) Barack will tax these big oil company profits to help American families pay for rising bills.</div><div><br />2. The environment – Anyone who wants to protect the environment gets my vote. Obama has a history of introducing legislation and voting for issues that protect the environment. These issues include banning the US export of mercury, strengthening fuel economy standards, increasing the use of clean, renewable energy, creating 5 million green-collar jobs. I trust him to carry these environmentally sound principles to the next level.</div><div><br />3. Service – A lot of my free-time is dedicated to volunteering, and I applaud anyone who believes in Einstein’s quote: a life lived for others is a life worthwhile. Obama’s plans include expansion of the Peace Corps and Americorps, and establishment of programs that will give retired Americans, youths, and college students the opportunity to volunteer.</div><div><br />4. Affordable Healthcare – Anyone and everyone should be insured. Right now, 46 million Americans (including 9 million children) have no health insurance. As a result, many kids and adults don’t get the health care they need. While each candidate’s healthcare plans seem all talk and no substance, I like Obama’s plan better. His plan ensures insurance affordability via a mix of private and government plans. Employers are to either insure employees or pay a tax toward a national health plan. And how would this plan be funded? Big oil taxes of course.</div><div><br />5. Education – As Aristotle said, education is the best provision for old age. Americans really must do more to ensure no child is left behind. Obama’s plan is very ambitious, starting at the very earliest: 0 – 5 year-olds, creating grants that will promote readiness for kindergarten. He plans to address the drop-out crisis, expand afterschool opportunities, and create the American opportunity tax credit among other things.<br /><br />This is by no means a complete list. I like Obama for the things he stands for and for the things he does not. I believe that both McCain and Obama only want to serve the country to the best of their abilities. However, Obama is advocating for issues that matter to me.<br /><br /></div>i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-8756257760916075942008-10-13T01:12:00.000-07:002008-10-13T01:45:04.540-07:00Christopher Columbus: hero or genocidal maniac??<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhO6N4j9AsPOgouxFTPLtp4kmpL7eiviGJXBANF-4rOYG5PHysXOtzXUn2eT_Bu9NOekybK3otJIVZapmu5NAmiXIRMrPlLjThuvjJUWvfU7RGAxLRvzZe52GRnxD95s4S_FIJT5a7wmuk/s1600-h/columbus-day.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhO6N4j9AsPOgouxFTPLtp4kmpL7eiviGJXBANF-4rOYG5PHysXOtzXUn2eT_Bu9NOekybK3otJIVZapmu5NAmiXIRMrPlLjThuvjJUWvfU7RGAxLRvzZe52GRnxD95s4S_FIJT5a7wmuk/s200/columbus-day.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5256556607239832210" /></a><br />Each year, on the second Monday of October, Americans celebrate Columbus Day. It was declared an annual day of celebration in 1934 and is usually observed by parades, department store sales, and a day-off for government employees. In Elementary schools, children cut slivers of black and brown construction paper to fashion their own replicas of the Nina, Pinta and Santa Maria. Then they repeat that cute rhyme learned by all second-graders: "In fourteen-hundred and ninety-two, Columbus sailed the ocean blue." <br /><br />From their history books, elementary and high school students learn that Christopher Columbus discovered America. They are given visions of a brave and valiant hero who challenged the unknown sea. Nowhere in their history books or their curriculum are they taught the real truths: that he did not discover America but the Caribbean, that he spoiled a peaceful land, that he murdered natives in the name of God, and that he tortured, enslaved, and authorized the complete annihilation of the Arawak Indians.<br /><br />Traditional lessons of Columbus do not include the history of the natives and the land he conquered. Numerous details are removed to give a sanitized version of Columbus as an explorer, navigator, and discoverer. However, there are historical documents, including Columbus' own diary, that reveal a very different person. From his numerous letters and reports, we learn that what Columbus wanted most was gold and he was willing to do anything to seize wealth that belonged to others. <br /><br />Another historical document that tells a different history is the journal of Bartolome de las Casas, a Spanish missionary who participated in the conquest. His journal entries give numerous eyewitness accounts of how Columbus and his men treated the natives with repeated mass murder and torture. Las Casas tells how the Spaniards "grew more conceited every day" and how they refused to walk any distance, preferring to "ride the backs of Indians" or be carried in hammocks by Indians. "In this case they also had Indians carry large leaves to shade them...and fan them with goose wings." Their sense of power over the natives led to absolute cruelty. They "thought nothing of knifing Indians by tens and twenties and of cutting slices off them to test the sharpness of their blades."<br /><br />The discovery of the New World was not for human progress as students are led to believe. For Columbus, it represented life without limits and unbridled freedom. He lauded himself as the admiral of the ocean sea and unleashed a reign of terror upon the inhabitants of the island that is now Haiti. One day, in front of Las Casas, Columbus and his men dismembered, beheaded, or raped 3,000 people. "Such inhumanities and barbarisms were committed in my sight," he says, "as no age can parallel..." <br /> <br />Under Columbus's governorship, 50,000 native people died within a matter of months. By 1508, over three million people had perished from Columbus's campaign of brutality and sadism. Some historians, who have an ideological duty to tell the whole truth, see the destruction of the natives as the most massive act of genocide in the history of the world. Samuel Eliot Morison, a Harvard historian and the most distinguished writer on Columbus, tells about the enslavement and the killing: "The cruel policy initiated by Columbus and pursued by his successors resulted in complete genocide." <br /> <br />These facts are omitted in the telling of the story of Christopher Columbus. History books given to students in the United States relate the heroic adventure without the massive bloodshed. They celebrate Columbus Day without knowing the path of destruction he led. In Denver, the American Indian Movement of Colorado has been protesting the Columbus day Parade. Its members have gathered support from policy makers to change the curriculum from a sanitized hero-worship version to a more inclusive lesson grounded in research and historical documents. As a result, some Denver public schools are updating its history curriculum to encourage discussion of the competing sides of Columbus's story. In following this example, the nation's largest teachers union, the National Education Association, have also organized protests to make changes in their history curriculum to include the history of the natives.<br /> <br />It is a wonder that in the land of America, where slavery is denounced, human rights are exulted, and equality is in constant check, a slave-trader and genocidal maniac is exulted as the first American hero. Those who take the responsibility to educate themselves and actually delve into the research to uncover the truth about Columbus know better than to celebrate Columbus. To teach Columbus as a hero to students is to justify the atrocities he caused. It allows children to quietly accept the lesson that conquest and murder stand for human progress. To honor Columbus is to celebrate his legacy of greed and arrogance. It shows to the rest of the world that something is amiss in the American value system.<br /> <br />The telling of the history of Columbus must, at the very least, include the true stories that have been ignored for centuries. The discovery of America is not only from the viewpoint of the discoverers but also from the natives who were there first. Their stories are just as important, if not more, in the birth of the New World. Students need to know the disturbing nature of what in truth is being honored on the second Monday of each October.i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-51799665351666270712008-09-20T15:10:00.000-07:002008-09-21T16:43:44.540-07:00phantom limb syndrome<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_2an9ruNqOn6DFQfwaR9C1uK8o4PMVGtC0UoQX_rMAgxcmsyFdcP554UMweaW_oIW3kzAMSjNLneNydnAE1k_4W8daMC7WcGsWJGfC_VuNT58YUFiqBnLkJiFIqM8f_XwTKqA2DY30LY/s1600-h/DSC01899+copy.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_2an9ruNqOn6DFQfwaR9C1uK8o4PMVGtC0UoQX_rMAgxcmsyFdcP554UMweaW_oIW3kzAMSjNLneNydnAE1k_4W8daMC7WcGsWJGfC_VuNT58YUFiqBnLkJiFIqM8f_XwTKqA2DY30LY/s320/DSC01899+copy.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5248613076052432546" /></a><br />It’s only been a little over 24 hours since my two better halves boarded a plane for Canada and left me alone and lonely in this city of sacrament. I miss them so much. I missed them even before they left. Now I am here with too little to do and too much time. Sleep escapes me. Who wants to sleep when things go bumpity-bump in the night and no-one is here to help me shoo away my scary imaginings. Obi gives some reassurance, but not much. Especially when he starts barking at an empty room and I wonder if he senses something I can’t see. That’s when I turn the TV volume a little bit higher and pretend to laugh at the silly shows. <br /><br />When I got up this morning from a pretend sleep, it was exactly 3:30 am. In exactly 1 hour I had to be at work. I looked at the coffee maker, wondering how to operate it. Cam always started the coffee, always made sure there was fresh energy brewing before I spirited myself to work. As for my cell-phone, it’s missing again. It could be under the cushions, or under some messy stack of papers, or right under my nose!! But I couldn’t find it without Cam’s help. <br /><br />My legs feel bare without some tiny arms clinging to them, tugging at my shirt and exclaiming “Up! Up!” The tiny hall is too quiet without the Sophia Bear beating the walls with her wooden spoon. <br /><br />I think I am suffering from phantom limb syndrome…the emotional kind that runs in families. I feel handicapped without them. Their absence is tugging painfully at my heart. I know, it will only be for ten days, but it’s still hard. Right now, I have to re-teach myself the basics of living alone – lock doors, eat healthy (stay away from McDonald’s), clean up, and put gas in the car. While I wait for these 10 days of loneliness to pass, I have to stretch out my thoughts and practice skills I haven’t used, like reading a favorite book, writing in my journal, and socializing with non-family beings. I might even find the time to dust off those painting brushes and let loose at a blank canvas. Who knows, I just might uncover a part of me that has not seen the light in a long, long time.i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-23737170621952990082008-09-18T00:36:00.001-07:002008-09-21T15:08:08.739-07:00YellowIf you have a child, know a child, or know of someone who has a child…then most likely, you have heard of The Wiggles – those 4 singing-dancing-wiggling guys dressed in colorful star-trek outfits. I first saw them about three years ago. There they were, 4 grown men prancing about and singing a duck/rooster song. My first thought was: “Are your kidding me!!” What right-minded child would watch these men who clearly looked uncomfortable dancing to silly nursery rhymes. But lo and behold – the children around me were mesmerized.<br /><br />In my household…the Wiggles ROCK!! Sophia’s favorite song is Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, but she calls it “Up Above” and tries to dance to it just like the ballerinas in the video. Her second favorite song is “Big Red Car” and she's got the moves down. Not a meal goes by without a Wiggles song being sung. Numerous Wiggles videos now line our shelves, and Cam and I are forced to watch them. I must admit I have come to love those colorful dudes, and I find that I enjoy watching their videos long after Sophia has lost interest.<br /><br />So, who are these mature, professional-looking men, and what insanity drove them to wiggle to children’s songs? I heard a rumor that they were a failed band that found success in children’s entertainment. Actually, there is some truth to that. The blue and purple wiggles were in a little-known band called the Cockroaches. The blue, yellow, and red wiggles were classmates in an early childhood development class. In their pursuit to become teachers, they became good friends and decided to put together an album of children’s songs. More than a decade later, they’ve almost conquered the world of children.<br /><br />Recently, Greg the yellow wiggle was replaced due to a chronic condition called Orthostatic Intolerance. Again: “Are you kidding me??” It almost sounds like a joke. Why? Because Greg is towering tall - his height has become his own downfall. Ha ha ha. I’m probably the only one laughing. But seriously, I’m sad to see him go. He was my favorite.<br /><br /><object width="425" height="349"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/X8SDpNM4Yko&hl=en&fs=1&rel=0&color1=0xe1600f&color2=0xfebd01&border=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/X8SDpNM4Yko&hl=en&fs=1&rel=0&color1=0xe1600f&color2=0xfebd01&border=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="349"></embed></object>i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-78884180650445444722008-09-13T20:51:00.000-07:002008-09-17T21:46:20.153-07:00Car: 1 Obi: 0<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgu3MuM7740j7u3wNDoVtlejMf5o57qegJ9H90D6JrkJrikHxxYLIhmER8rvwxrJXKxvcTuUHRLDrBuNxKlhjyeSXo8gRGg75wG0nNooqu3C7AXGXFlBz4KJWgyHoRlajDP-GYAaskFXpI/s1600-h/DSC02185.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgu3MuM7740j7u3wNDoVtlejMf5o57qegJ9H90D6JrkJrikHxxYLIhmER8rvwxrJXKxvcTuUHRLDrBuNxKlhjyeSXo8gRGg75wG0nNooqu3C7AXGXFlBz4KJWgyHoRlajDP-GYAaskFXpI/s200/DSC02185.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5247218119964187010" /></a><br />While Cam, Sophia, and I were enjoying ourselves in Colorado, our faithful dog Obi was in the care of some friends here in Sacramento. These friends of ours watched Obi many times before. They had kids that loved playing with him and I’m sure Obi enjoyed the table scraps they gave him despite our protests. They generally took good care of him, and in return we paid them $15 a day. The only problems we’ve had were the dog leashes. Each time, we left Obi with a nice $50 retractable leash. And each time we got him back, the leash returned broken beyond repair. After losing two expensive leashes, we decided to leave him with a cheap one – and even that was destroyed!<br /><br />Nevertheless, we prefer them over taking Obi to the kennel, which costs $20 per day + tax. Obi also picks up bad habits from the other kennel dogs and we don’t know what horrible thoughts go through his mind while stashed in a cold 4’ X 6’ concrete cage.<br /><br />This time however, something bad happened. Towards the end of our trip, I got a call from a stranger, asking if I was the owner of a dog named Obi. “Yes,” I replied cautiously, wondering if it was a prank call and at the same time panicking with horrible images of an accident racing through my mind.<br /><br />“Well, I have your dog,” the lady said. “His leg is badly wounded. “<br />It turned out Obi managed to escape my friend’s house through a window that was slightly opened. From there, who knew what happened. He had crossed a major road that was 6 lanes wide and ended up some few miles from my friend’s house. The Good Samaritan who found him cleaned up his right front leg, which had a large gaping wound. Thank goodness she found him. And I am so, so, so grateful that 2 years ago, Cam and I decided to get Obi those cute tags engraved with his name and phone number. Without it, Obi would still be lost.<br /><br />Obi came home with a wrapped up front paw and loads of pain killers and antibiotics. My friends were very sorry of course, and they did pay $300 for the emergency pet hospital. Now, about two weeks and hundreds of dollars in vet bills later, Obi is so much better. It was a challenge getting him to take his pills. A nice mouthful of chicken tenders and bacon sure helped the medicine go down. He also had to wear his cone collar a few times. He kept running into things. It was quite funny.<br /><br />We still don’t know what happened to Obi that day. Why did he escape? How did he get his wound? The vet speculated that he was hit by a car considering how deep his wound was. I like to think that gallant Obi was sitting contently when he heard a damsel dog in distress. Without a moment to lose, he tore open the window with his powerful jaws and ran to save the day. Maybe the damsel dog was stuck on a manhole, and maybe there was a huge car coming. And maybe Obi hesitated a little before heroically rescuing the damsel dog and pushing her to safety. Maybe he took too long sniffing her before getting himself out of the way. Maybe, just maybe.<br /><br />I still have to pay my friend the pet-sitting fee, in addition to the vet bill. This is turning out to be a very expensive deal. In retrospect, maybe the kennel would not be such a bad idea for next time.i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-84868420504045540252008-09-03T14:56:00.000-07:002008-09-17T21:51:17.976-07:00Sophia's return<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0BFYOVT8mgixMOLfIONXQpWU6dL4mOgx9I1cfJTW10KlFzZ2awTWG8xXGI1SOJO9l5hUvOJRCmQb44Zojxvbn1-vcRWlNJdjZIDaYh2qmlCTp9aEdoOcUfg7W6Bv_wKcySiIA7FKTtN4/s1600-h/DSC01877+copy.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0BFYOVT8mgixMOLfIONXQpWU6dL4mOgx9I1cfJTW10KlFzZ2awTWG8xXGI1SOJO9l5hUvOJRCmQb44Zojxvbn1-vcRWlNJdjZIDaYh2qmlCTp9aEdoOcUfg7W6Bv_wKcySiIA7FKTtN4/s200/DSC01877+copy.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5245259628698501154" /></a><br />Sophia went back to her day care today after almost 2 weeks of traveling. She’s always so good about waking up early and getting into the car to be driven to a place far from home only to be left in the hands of somewhat unfamiliar faces. Sometimes she cries when we set her down in front of other kids who are also crying or whimpering. And sometimes, she’s just too sleepy to care and sits down and stares at her breakfast while mom and dad kiss her good-bye. But most of the time, she recognizes some of her playmates, the few toddlers there who have been with her from day one and have grown with her since she was six weeks old. <br /><br />Today, those friends of hers were very excited to see that she has returned. They squealed her name in delight and rushed over to see her. “Phia! Phia!” they said as they huddled over and hugged Sophia before she could even get both feet on the ground. And there they were, three toddlers plus Sophia, in a tight little group hug. It was the cutest thing and I wish I had a camera to capture the moment. It is so nice to know that Sophia is loved, by her peers, almost as much as she is loved by mom and dad.i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8631693558449967529.post-27442077163751453212008-09-03T14:54:00.000-07:002008-09-21T15:09:40.247-07:00Memoirs from a red state<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhyOy1GYO7pWeAOQn7-02ZLsqs75vE2hRF3Rp3gbIhGaPZwR7vMxXjyEkBCaXenH4lihyphenhyphen6mGRsTInkt5a7GTehTwJk0hGRsMfu8BWwH8MiCY5BxlKlvs-qFg7K8mYcldFZJXU-c8zdm-nw/s1600-h/DSC02122.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhyOy1GYO7pWeAOQn7-02ZLsqs75vE2hRF3Rp3gbIhGaPZwR7vMxXjyEkBCaXenH4lihyphenhyphen6mGRsTInkt5a7GTehTwJk0hGRsMfu8BWwH8MiCY5BxlKlvs-qFg7K8mYcldFZJXU-c8zdm-nw/s200/DSC02122.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5245262492564956226" /></a><br />We returned home from Colorado Springs feeling like we left our hearts. Although we are back to our familiar corners where we can stretch out our giant paws and scratch our furniture and not worry about the mess we make, Cam and I feel like we belonged more to Colorado Springs. We’ve returned to Sacramento only to breathe unhealthy air and suffer sniffles and sneezes throughout the day. We’re back to endure eternal rush hour in sweltering heat and rude drivers on the verge of road rage.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjk_1mTM9OL2bFEmOAj73-7nmn5fxRYS737bF6YNXltylovT0ZS6pvV1FL7iJD0j4V3JpYxoBJDmznXwYrztYi5_a2rouCQMH6Zkm4iVrmYHG-gFal2UfXkqTN3ectlBGhBPHZnKyNs-cU/s1600-h/DSC02086+copy.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjk_1mTM9OL2bFEmOAj73-7nmn5fxRYS737bF6YNXltylovT0ZS6pvV1FL7iJD0j4V3JpYxoBJDmznXwYrztYi5_a2rouCQMH6Zkm4iVrmYHG-gFal2UfXkqTN3ectlBGhBPHZnKyNs-cU/s200/DSC02086+copy.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5245261652551222018" /></a><br />If you have never been to Colorado Springs, consider this a giant billboard urging you to visit. The mountains are so close, you can see them while lying flat on the ground. The occasional rains on the mountains brings such cool breezes, there is no need for A.C. If you are an avid cyclist, Colorado is probably the best place to bike. Parts of the interstate even have dedicated bike-lanes!! If you have ten things to do at ten different places, you can get them done in one day and still have time to do ten more. That’s because there’s practically no traffic there – the highways are big and wide with multiple lanes and so few cars. You can drive from metropolitan high rises to rustic old western saloons within 30 minutes. And the air is so clean. Cam’s persistent dry cough disappeared within a couple days of getting there, and my mysterious throat allergy mysteriously vanished. But the thing I love the most about Colorado is the beauty of it all. There are rocks there that are so red and orange you wonder if some interplanetary traveler put them there.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg01aI2zOiMD_Djuj-2CMpmhHvVkaQcsdu-m1RxGgjwtKZ6jdr_OhFQraOr5pUj0ROaJNBewhT7CZg6X5yJpBkaZef6zIcCUorCNYX3hRuaQQ78tIP3pgXgKmg5aCTy8TCCvaebgcdb2gU/s1600-h/DSC02163.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg01aI2zOiMD_Djuj-2CMpmhHvVkaQcsdu-m1RxGgjwtKZ6jdr_OhFQraOr5pUj0ROaJNBewhT7CZg6X5yJpBkaZef6zIcCUorCNYX3hRuaQQ78tIP3pgXgKmg5aCTy8TCCvaebgcdb2gU/s200/DSC02163.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5245263197993876322" /></a><br />But, like all things in life…there is an existing dark side to this bright colorful state. Within its square boundaries, Colorado houses many gun-toting, NRA-touting, Bush-loving, right-wing conservative yahoos. It is a red state afterall. With 9 electoral votes, it has voted for the RED team 9 times out of the past 10 presidential elections. Certainly, it is a foreboding state for a blue girl like me. But for this coming election, polls say it is neither blue nor red. In fact it is a swing-state WHITE (why not purple???) Maybe Cam and I should go there to tip the balance a little. Cam did suggest that the next time we visit, we should go to James Dobson’s Focus on the Family Visitor Center and post Obama/Biden stickers on the bathroom stalls.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgdlB5POspsw2PjC04XlVTc9Fa7tdh6u3Iir5INi_1r3hgoOx8KxEOuWkrXl0Vko_lU0vBQsuvPBbrgUZcAzIl3EGYTQ4JLbMk3xmj1G3B28_0ZFtjncJX6zOFMDajuOew2h2W7Z9ht2JE/s1600-h/DSC01984.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgdlB5POspsw2PjC04XlVTc9Fa7tdh6u3Iir5INi_1r3hgoOx8KxEOuWkrXl0Vko_lU0vBQsuvPBbrgUZcAzIl3EGYTQ4JLbMk3xmj1G3B28_0ZFtjncJX6zOFMDajuOew2h2W7Z9ht2JE/s200/DSC01984.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5245262130432002930" /></a><br />It really doesn’t matter to us that Colorado is red or blue or purple. What matters is that there are so many things there that we love. And as we got ready to leave, we often wondered why we couldn’t just stay.i.celyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13878985095933759964noreply@blogger.com0